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Church sins, When churches attack

The purpose of this area is two fold.  When you are hurt you need to vent,  and I believe that we need to pray for the repentance of our people. In the Old Testament there are occasions [plenty] where some one would apologize to God and ask forgiveness for things the nation of Israel did.  You vent, I and whoever else, will repent and ask forgiveness . I might not have done it, but if my brother or sister did, I still need to ask for mercy and ask the Holy Spirit to bring repentance and redemption.  I have a few of these, so I will start out. 

 

I was once a deacon in a church, and very active, working on the building and even preaching on occation. My wife’s mother died, and a lot of baggage floated to the surface.  At that time she was a believer but not baptised.  The denomination i was in fellowship with put great weight on baptism , the weight of salvation.  I asked the Pastor to come visit my wife to console her and perhaps even lead her to be baptised.  He informed me he would take either Visa or master Card to do grief counseling as he had just earned his Clinical Psych degree.  I was floored. I was worried about her soul not her mind.  I never went back to that church.  it felt like a divorce,  my friends my ministry vaporized in one fell swoop. That should not have happened.

 

Ever had a real bad church day?  I was just a kid in “the big church” downtown.  Things got off to a rough start in Sunday School,  as I gave the answer to a question,  ”Jesus Christ”  and the deacon’s son said,”OOH, you cursed.”   I knew he was not the saltiest chip in the bag, but I was looking for a little support, none to be found.  Now it was time to go upstairs to the Sanctuary.  I loved that huge pipe organ!  We all wore our Sunday best back then,  As I rounded the first set of steps I was met by the Hat brigade.  The head hat lady took the arm of my sport coat between thumb and finger and said, “Your  father’s business must be slow this year.”  [It was, but Easter was coming, and that was when I got my new clothes.]  Never went back to worship there again.  I guess I was 12,  my parents weren’t church goers  but my excitement to go to the “big church ” died that day.  In fact I never went back to a church until I was reborn.   Kids are like that. They jump to conclusions and generalize. But then, that should not have happened.


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I have no words for that Pastor that wanted payment to visit your wife, no Christian ones anyway.

The incident with the “hat lady” seems to be all too common. I’m sorry you were hurt that way. Kids deserve better.

Comment by Shawn W

This is the way most churches are. I avoid usage of the word ‘all’ because I don’t want to generalize, but I think the great majority of churches are like this – maybe 99.9%.

Churches contain people and ALL people are bad people. No one is a truly good, a truly kind person. Goodness and kindness are fruits but those fruits can whither or go through a slow season.

Everyone, if they are in church long enough, will be hurt by that church or the people in it. The problem with churches – there are people in them. Find a church without people and you won’t be hurt.

Better yet, worship alone; hopefully you won’t hurt your own feelings. Hopefully. Everyone, if they are smart, will take a break from churches every now and again to heal themselves.

Going to church is like being in the trenches. Instead of bombs you are assaulted with hugs and too bright smiles. If those small bombs don’t kill you then the nasty middle aged ladies and the stern men in bad suits will. Either way, you’re a gonner.

Find a church without judgmental people and without legalism and just plain nastiness and I will prove to you that it is either a hallucination or that you have died and gone to heaven.

Welcome to the world of churches.

Comment by TabithaWynne

I’m so glad I found this site…Keep up the good work

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